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Every parent knows the telltale signs of a good ol\u2019 temper tantrum: There\u2019s often screaming, tears, maybe some flailing of arms and legs as they lay on the floor of a public place.<\/p>\n

But when these angry outbursts are frequent and bring with them violent behavior, or when a child seems sullen, withdrawn or not interested in any normal kid activities, this can signal something deeper is happening\u2014something like domestic violence.<\/p>\n

The questions then become: If you notice these signs in someone else\u2019s child, do you step in? What do you say? What if you\u2019re wrong? The last question is why Brian F. Martin, founder of the non-profit Childhood Domestic Violence Association<\/a>, says most people don\u2019t get involved, even if the signs are there.<\/p>\n

\u201cThe penalty for being wrong is pretty great. You\u2019ve just accused parents, incorrectly, of being domestically violent. This whole idea of how to spot trauma in children is why there\u2019s no progress being made. Trauma is misdiagnosed so frequently.\u201d<\/p>\n

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Martin founded his New York-based non-profit in 2007 to bring awareness to the problem of childhood domestic violence (CDV), a little-known term to the public but used by prominent researchers to describe growing up with violence between parents or a parent and significant other.<\/p>\n

Identifying childhood domestic violence, says Martin, is not the problem. One hundred percent of children exposed to domestic violence, he says, are affected by it. \u201cIt\u2019s not like some kids growing up with domestic violence have these characteristics and traits; they\u2019re all impacted.\u201d Find a domestic violence situation with kids in the home, says Martin, and you\u2019ve found children suffering from trauma.<\/p>\n

The National School Safety Center found 2.7 million<\/a> U.S. children are bullied a year. Conversely, 15 million children<\/a> are exposed to domestic violence annually. \u201cWe can educate on bullying but not this? Educators think bullying is a bigger issue than this because they don\u2019t know what to call it [CDV],\u201d says Martin.<\/p>\n

According to Martin, we\u2019re asking the wrong thing. \u201cThe question is not how can we identify the children, it\u2019s how can we help them identify themselves?\u201d Martin hopes CDV can someday be taught as readily in schools as bullying. Until that happens, it\u2019s important to know the signs of CDV<\/a>:<\/p>\n

Infants<\/strong>: Decreased responsiveness, fussiness, trouble eating and sleeping<\/p>\n

Pre-Schoolers<\/strong>: Aggression, behavior problems, frequent bed wetting, isolating themselves from peers, feeling unsafe, suffering separation anxiety, bad dreams, self-blame, lower verbal skills<\/p>\n

Grade Schoolers<\/strong>: Aggression, frequent outbursts, bullying others, frequent bed-wetting, poor quality peer relations, emotionally withdrawn, fear, emotional responses not matching situation, lower verbal skills and reading levels<\/p>\n

Adolescents<\/strong>: Dating violence, bullying, use of drugs or alcohol, early sexual activity, emotionally withdrawn or detached, frequent health complaints, short attention span, lower verbal skills, difficulty trusting others<\/p>\n

Trauma in children can sometimes be mistaken for ADHD. Read more about that in\u00a0When Children Experience Trauma<\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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